IT’S FERUARY 15!!! Thank God I was able to survive the hype of yesterday. Thought I wasn’t gonna make it but thankfully I did. While everyone was out getting some dinner date with their significant other or friends or family, I was slumped in my bed and waiting for it to get done. Im not being bitter or am I? perhaps yea. To make it worst I just got dumped. I kinda tried to beat the deadline but unfortunately didn’t make it.
Yesterday was all about Chocolates, flowers, dinner date, heart shaped balloons, matching red shirts and what not. To sum ‘em all up? Its LOVE baby! Looove, its what keeps everyone alive. We give love coz we wanna get that back too. Everyone wants to get loved it’s the greatest thing in this world, and as they say; in whatever you do, do it with love. Don’t ask me who said that coz the hell I know. But it makes sense. Do everything with love coz it’s gonna get back at you. As simple as that.
But today I wanna talk about loving yourself. Coz you know what they say? If you cant love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Ring a bell? I mean, how do you expect to give love to everyone and everything, if in the first place you don’t give it to yourself? remember this; no one's gonna love you if you don't love yourself. But the question is do we really know what loving ourselves mean? Well I was browsing the web and came across this article that talked about life. From what I read,
“Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others.”
recently i realized something that has a great connection to this..just like everybody else im also gettng some tough times in life. and its not easy especially in my situation where everyone has very high expectations. and i don't wanna disappoint them especially my family. and also i was kind of at war here with myself with regards to this. my longing to get freed and be happy is being hindered by what the society and the church had dictated us, and for that i hated the both of them.
only just now that im getting this very strange feeling where i wanna be liberated. i feel like this is the right time to settle things up. so i told my friends about it. we'd been together for like almost 5 yrs and i never told them. and i could say i have the coolest friends in the world coz they're perfectly fine about it. now im tryna make my way of tellin everyone. im gettin there and im sure i am very close.
here's the step on how to love yourself that i was able to come up after all these dramas in life;
- Embracing Yourself
first step is to embrace yourself. you must know who you really are; what you are, and what you're not; the things you can do and those that you cant. you have to know and acknowledge these things and embrace them coz that's part of who you really are. we cannot deny that fact.
- Accepting Yourself
now this is where most people are having problems with. most of us cannot accept ourselves. prolly coz of the media, what the society telling us is right, the church and whatever. you just have to know that you're born that way and nothing can stop you from being free and being happy. forget about what shit they're gonna say. it's YOU who can decide for yourself.
- Loving Yourself
love is coming from within. you no longer compulsively search for fulfillment or completeness of yourself from the external world be it a person or an achievement. fulfillment exudes within yourself which you will then share with others. now, you're ready for that one great love ;)
..remember what lady gaga told you; YOU ARE BORN THAT WAY :]